The way that a person with dementia experiences the world is not always grounded in our current reality. Perhaps one of the most distressful yet profound experiences you may encounter is something called time-shifting. It isn’t just forgetting what day it is; it is a total immersion in a different period of their life. As an example of this type of dementia reality issue, perhaps you are sitting together at the dining room table, and suddenly, your older loved one believes they are a teenager waiting for their parents to come home. It’s confusing for them and certainly will be equally perplexing for you. But understanding time-shifting can help make those moments more manageable—and even meaningful.
What Is Time-Shifting?
Time-shifting occurs when somebody with dementia feels as though they are living in an alternate time from their past. Beyond reminiscing, it is a deep, genuine belief that they’re currently in that particular period of time. For them, the present moment fades, replaced by vivid memories that feel as real as today. They can call out for individuals who passed away years ago or discuss events that happened decades earlier like they were happening now.
Simple Tips to Cope With Time-Shifting Moments
When time-shifting occurs, it’s instinctive to want to correct the person’s perception, to gently remind them that they’re here, with you, in the present. However, we know that this strategy often leads to frustration, distress, and confusion. As an alternative, try stepping into their reality. Validate their feelings, identify what they’re expressing, and respond with empathy. If they are anxious about an appointment with their parents, for instance, you might say, “It sounds like you truly care about being on time. They must have meant so much to you.” This response can provide comfort minus the jarring reminder that their parents are not around anymore.
Creating Connection Through Their World
Stepping into the person’s dementia reality can certainly be a chance to create moments of connection. Ask questions about the time period they are immersed in, such as, “What’s your favorite thing to do when your parents get home?” Questions similar to this can prompt storytelling that engages them while providing you with a richer understanding of their past. You may hear stories you have never heard before or learn information that enables you to get closer.
Looking After Yourself
It is essential to understand that time-shifting is often exhausting for you emotionally. Seeing a family member drift into another time and place can make you feel helpless. Ensure you have support, whether from friends, family, or professional resources. Joining a caregiver support group can also provide you with helpful tips and friendship from individuals who know what you are dealing with. Remember, you do not have to feel alone in this.
Our Dementia Care Experts Are Here to Help
Though we understand how hard it may be, time-shifting moments offer a window into the life experiences that have shaped the person you love. And we are here to help you each step of the way in caring for someone you love with dementia. Our professional care specialists are fully trained and experienced in the unique nuances of dementia and are available to offer Alzheimer’s and dementia care in Brentwood, Beverly Hills, Santa Monica, and throughout Los Angeles County. Call us at (213) 383-2273 for a complimentary in-home meeting to find out more.